Every week I send an email to my accountability partner, listing things I’ll take care of in the upcoming week. She does the same. We have Alyson Stanfield to thank for our professional relationship, which has evolved into a fine friendship over the years. This week, “Stay away from the computer” was on my list, and my partner’s interest was piqued, admitting she had a little social media addiction problem, too.
I’ve copped to my addiction in the past, but never offered the concrete solutions I’ll offer in this post. WARNING: These concrete solutions can, and will at times, feel more like a pair of cement shoes.
I began to examine what is commonly referred to as FOMO – Fear of Missing Out – but needed to understand the ‘why’ behind our obsessive computer-seeking behaviour. I came to these conclusions about why we’re drawn to our divisives devices: Continue reading “You Say Devices; I Say Divisives”
It’s December. In less than a month those pesky coaches, motivational speakers and self-help gurus’ poker-hot breath will be like needles in the back of your neck…demanding to know your “New Year’s Resolutions.”
Bahhh! Personally, I haven’t found resolutions to be much help. But, I have noticed the power of focused intentions and a few solid goals. I set the goals and put the vision “out there,” into the powerful ethosphere. Stuff happens. In my day to day life I plug in actions to support those goals. I like to keep my timelines rather “loose” because I buy into the myth that more structure equals less freedom. I know it’s a myth, I teach others it’s a myth, but I choose to indulge it.I’m flawed.
(Note: This may be the least humorous, most content rich post I’ve ever written. I’ve provided links to previous posts as resources for you. I hope it helps you create a blueprint for making your dreams come true in 2014…should you choose to create one! Please, as you link to the other posts, feel free to comment on them and share them…Thank you for helping The Art of the Well Lived Life GROW! I am grateful for your readership. ~ m)
I’m feeling a lot of pressure this time of year. It’s all good stuff, but it feels like none of the balls should be dropped, lest they shatter like a delicate Christmas ornament and shatter to pieces the dreams of a hopeful child…yep….pressure.
The fact that time marches on and I’m smack in the middle of the path has me a bit concerned (click to Tweet). Nature calls…not like THAT, silly! The moon was full the other night, so I felt the need to have a final, good, scrubbing for 2013 and not track any dirt into the pristine promise of 2014. Here’s more about how I journal in accordance with the moon.
Also, Solstice is peeking her head around the corner and I adore her! It’s tomorrow! *LET THERE BE LIGHT! * Days will get longer. Hope springs from light and warmth and new growth. Many consider solstice the dawning of the new year. Whether you celebrate December 20th or January 1 – it’s staring you in the face! In the midst of all the celebration and fervor, have you considered what you want to do with your 2014? It’ll happen, whether you plan some audacious strides or not.(click to Tweet).
I encourage you to take this time to consider what their ideal year would look like. This may easily consist of more than your business goals…you might like to review the Life Balance Wheeland see if you have any gaping holes that will swallow your best laid plans like a sink hole in Central Florida. (Of course, you aren’t planning a sink hole! I mean swallow the PLANS! Never mind…) Once you know which areas you’d like to bolster, create a list of the things you’d like to do next year to make it happen. Make your goals S.M.A.R.T. – if you don’t, well, that’s just not smart, and I don’t want to call you stupid or anything…you’re an adult, you can draw your own conclusions.
There are lots of ways of backing those goals into your calendar. Identify and engage resources and support groups to help you achieve your goals, or hirea coach to help youfind your way and overcome your demons (hint, hint). I have some screaming deals on artist’s coaching packages (click to Tweet).
And FINALLY, because so much is about attitude…don’t forget your “Nutshell” word. That single, guiding word that will be your compass for the upcoming year. Where are you in your journey? What do you want to express? For example, last year mine was “joy.”
Just a few things to think about between baking, wrapping, traveling, finishing the year end books and anything else that may be on your plate. Don’t forget – when it’s all over it will just be you…and 365 days you’ve been given to make your dreams come true. Manage your time wisely.
To New Beginnings!
Michelle Andres is a coach, writer and artist who nudges, nay, shoves creatives in the direction of their dreams by helping them improve productivity and cultivate good behaviours while eliminating poor ones.
Tonight the moon is full. There will also be a penumbral eclipse, though it may not be visible in North America. I’ve always followed the moon closely. She is a heavenly body symbolizing light, the feminine (maiden, mother and crone) and abundance. The moon controls her own cycles. She is the embodiment of planting, growth and harvest. The moon taps into our feminine qualities, all of us, not just women, but men, too.
So, why am I going all loony for the moony? Mostly because I spent last weekend with 55 other artists in a room with music, laughter, chocolate, flowers and Alyson Stanfield, The Art Biz Coach. We defined our dreams and took oaths with one another on steps we’d take to make our dreams materialize. It was fantastic. The friendships we formed will go far beyond the weekend and the steps we’ve vowed to take will become our everyday, powerful, business tools and rituals.
Rituals. We had a discussion about the benefits of journaling, affirmations and gratitude. These activities are powerful and keep us on track. They do require some upkeep AND I have something additional to share with you. You may even want to try it.
I do a bi-monthly moon dance. Yep, I get all cozy, clear, conscious and talk to the moon. Twice a month. Like clockwork. My mind is clear. I get in a good space. I go outside, look up and let it fly. Don’t be alarmed. It’s not a cloven-hoofed ritual or anything, and it has good value.
I have a journal I use for the full and new moons. On the full moon, I let stuff go. It is a time of emptying, moving forward and past the concerns I’ve had. It doesn’t have to be fancy…usually just one, simple page. It may look something like this:
During this full moon I, with trust and faith, surrender and release that which no longer serves me.
Doubts about my talents and how they may be used to serve others
Fear of vulnerability (this is PROOF, I’ve let that one fly! I’m sharing my journal with you!)
A sense of lack or scarcity
Pain from the past that keeps me from savoring joy in the present
Today I joyfully surrender and am open to receive life differently.
I might also include concerns for my children or other people in my life, my interpretation of how I was treated or an event that felt unjust. Basically, it’s stuff I hang on to. We all have it. It’s emotional clutter, feelings of doubt. Why drag it around like toilet paper on the bottom of your shoe? The moon will take care of it!
So, the full moon is a time to unload. It’s spring cleaning for the soul, but I do it every month! (click to Tweet)
The new moon ritual is a little different. New moons are for exploring possibilities, setting intentions and moving forward. New moons manifest new ideas, practices and habits. I don’t get too specific, that’s what my “To Do” list is for. Here’s an example of a new moon ritual:
I accept these things into my life now, for my highest good and the good of all concerned:
Joyful, artful living
Cultivating more compassion, patience and non-judgment
A career path that fulfills my purpose and brings joy to myself and others
Deep connections with my animal friends
Yadda, yadda, yadda. Still reading? Did you get that one?
I am open to receive these gifts or something better. With joyful gratitude ~ m
New moons set the stage for the next slice of life you want to create (click to Tweet).
Sometimes we do things because they feel good. Sometimes we do things because they work. You will be pleased to know, this practice fits both bills. Occasionally, I have to carry an action over to the next month. Sometimes I find myself revisiting these releases or manifestations. But, I have a chronicle. I can see where I’ve been, I can imagine where I want to go…and createit. Every month I see growth, change and it goes the way of my intentions.
Embrace your lunacy. It only happens 24 times per year (or so). Go ahead…
Michelle Andres is a coach, writer and artist who nudges, nay, shoves creatives in the direction of their dreams by helping them improve productivity by helping them form good behaviours and eliminating poor ones. Follow her on Facebook on Twitter
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